Dating a divorced man with 3 kids
Dating a divorced man with 3 kids - dating a two year
When you have someone with kids, the kids come first (as they should) and I can’t compete with that priority. Why should I settle for less than I know I want and deserve. You need to work around the custody and children’s schedule. In my age range many men who are single have had children. I like kids, I want to have kids, I'd even be willing to adopt. I have an awesome (step) Mom because she was willing to date someone with three kids.
I did once have an interest in a guy who was a single dad of one, and he seemed to be managing the situation ok.But in reality, I only dated a few women with kids, and ended up marrying a woman who'd never been married before. If each kid had a different mother, that would make me wary because it implies poor judgement about birth control and someone who isn't responsible about birth control probably isn't going to be compatible with me.My fiance is a very responsible and conscientious person, and I like it even though there are times when I think he needs to lighten up.And as I reluctantly re-entered the dating scene, I started to realize that many of the women I'd meet had been married before and that some would have kids.That helped me appreciate for the first time the chance he took, the commitment he made...None of these adult chldren are shy about giving their opinions to their parents, either.
It all seems pretty fraught to me, as a mere onlooker.
I've been married for 12 years now, so this is a non-issue for me now.
But it so happens that my stepfather DID marry a woman with 3 kids.
I would have been happy to accept the kid in that situation. At age 25 and three little kids, that would be tough. In fact, I did it and we are now married and happy 10 years later.
I certainly wouldn't rule someone out because they had 3 kids, but it would give me pause.
They can bring their own issues to a new parental relatinship, from what I've seen.